How Jesus called and guided his disciples

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We began tonight's session with worship, and then considered how we were getting on with calling and leading others to follow Jesus. Everyone agreed that there was difficulty with this, but most had also seen some fruit after trying to find and engage interested people, and looking for people of peace.

The gospels show Jesus leading his followers and, by example, showing them how to lead others. They were always expected to learn to do this - as he first called Simon Peter and Andrew, Jesus said he would make them "fishers of men."

As noted by Mike Breen in his "Lifeshapes" series of teachings, four distinct phases or styles of leadership can be seen from Jesus in the gospels, which go together with different phases of his disciples' journey as they try to follow Jesus. We mapped this journey as a square and labelled the leadership phases L1, L2, L3 and L4. The disciples' journey can also be labelled as D1, D2, D3 and D4.

First phase - "The kingdom is at hand!"

L1: Leader Jesus sets out a clear vision and gives direct instruction on what people need to do to get going

D1: Disciples follow enthusiastically. They don't yet know that they will fail when trying to do what Jesus instructs, because they haven't tried yet, but they love the idea of where they are going.

Second phase - "Why couldn't we do it?"

D2: The disciples attempt to cast out demons but fail. Their basic understanding of what was happening and what they needed to do was faulty, and learning by experience was painful. They kept asking Jesus to do things for them, and found that Jesus seemed to expect they should be able to do the impossible, such as feed 5000 men + families with one lunchbox.

L2: Jesus maintains a high expectation of his followers even though they seem to keep letting him down. He spends a lot of time with them, sometimes explaining, often demonstrating what can be done if they follow him faithfully. He forgives their many mistakes and keeps encouraging them to take faith risks.

Third phase - "We can do it!"

D3: Disciples eventually gain understanding that things have to be done God's way, not their own, and as they put this into practice, they experience success. In Acts, we see lots of evidence that they did learn to do what Jesus did .

L3: Jesus encourages his followers to love one another, be a team, not just task-focussed individuals. He expects that people will be able to tell they are his followers by the way they treat each other, as well as how they relate to him. Jesus' expectation is partnership, even friendship, rather than a master-slave relationship, while it is always clear that his commands are to be followed.

Fourth phase - death, change, and the birth of a movement

L4: Jesus explains that a seed's potential is only realised when it falls to the ground, as if dead. The good partnership they have will appear to die when Jesus leaves his disciples with authority to carry on God's kingdom work, but this is necessary for them to move forwards.

D4: The disciples grieve and fail to understand what is happening until they are empowered by seeing Jesus risen from death and by being filled with the Holy Spirit. They are then able to start building God's church which has been growing for 2000 years. They become leaders of the next generation of disciples.

In God's kingdom, everyone has a leadership role, as well as a role as a follower of Jesus and of others following Jesus. It is therefore vital to learn to lead or apprentice others through the different stages necessary for them to grow in confidence and competence to do things God's way.

The four stages of apprenticing-type leadership, where the aim is for the apprentice to be able to do something, can be summed up as:

L1: "I do, you watch"

L2: "I do, you help"

L3: "You do, I help"

L4: "You do, I watch"

We discussed the importance of knowing where we are in the process of learning something, or leading learners - otherwise frustration may cause people to give up.

We also noted that much of Paul's instruction in letters seems to be addressed to people who are in our position, somewhere between D2 and D3 in many things. Any of his letters can be a good example to study for how people turn from D2 to D3. In Colossians, for example, this seems to be about a refreshing of the vision, practical support where it is needed and challenge to press ahead. While Paul does these things, he is always reminding the church of its purpose and calling in an encouraging way.

Ultimately, we don't want to be frustrated or stuck thinking at least "I did it my way" when our calling is to follow Jesus, live a full life and show everyone "I did it God's way".

God's kingdom

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A kingdom is somewhere a sovereign leader's rule of law is in effect. Liaison between the people and the leader is also needed so the people and the leader can know each other. Leader, law and liaison - three vital components of kingdom.

God's original kingdom was as simple as anyone could imagine. The beginning of Genesis describes the ideal of closeness to God, where God is leader, his word is law, and people liaise with him directly. But human rebellion replaced God in each of these roles, swapping the law for lies, and the leadership of God for the lust of our own selfish desires.

God had an incredible plan to re-establish relationships and kingdom with us, and the Old Testament tells of this demonstrated by God's choice of a people to show what kingdom life could be like. Initially God retains the role of king in these people's eyes. Various human leaders, judges and priests act as liaison between God and people, and God's word of law starts to become a written code which can be understood and passed on.

But people remain rebellious. After Samuel, the corrupt leaders did not follow God and, instead of demanding that they should, the people looked for answers by replacing God with a human king. God provided some great leaders through Saul, David and Solomon, but each was flawed and overly demanding as Samuel had prophesied. Nevertheless, God promised that his kingdom would come through David's family.

It seemed unlikely that this would work out quickly or by human effort. Kings after Solomon were, for the most part, hopelessly corrupted by their own desires and the influences of other nations who followed false gods. People rebelled again, the country divided and eventually was conquered. God's people lost their law, leaders and priestly liaison with God. Prophecy became more common but most prophetic words were false and opposed to God's true word. The Old Testament records the few true prophets who had difficult words about the kingdom's current state, but reminders of hope for the future.

There was some kingdom reconstruction seen from the time of Nehemiah, and the nation of Israel became re-established, but we know from historical records that by the time of Jesus, God's people had once again suffered rebellion and invasion. Leadership was challenged, liaison with God was compromised and, under a number of different teachers, the law had become an unmanageable, unhelpful burden. People were deeply divided about what needed to be fixed and how. Some sects pursued politics, others religion, others isolation, and some (the "zealots") went as far as terrorism and armed rebellion in the hope of restoring God's kingdom. While no-one could agree on how it would happen, many were waiting for "messiah", a saviour promised in scripture to make it happen.

What kind of saviour would the messiah be? Scripture pointed to an unprecedented combination of priest and king (no-one had been allowed to combine these roles before) who would also be a prophet. Israel seemed to expect a remarkable person, perhaps someone as good as Moses or Abraham. Each Jewish sect seemed to expect someone like themselves. God's idea was to do things his way, not theirs. No-one seemed to expect what Jesus presented - God himself in human form. God was uniquely able to establish a kingdom which would not be like any involving merely human leadership, liaison or law. It would be a return to Eden itself - direct contact with and rule by God and, as the scriptures had long said, not just for one nation but for the whole of God's world.

Jesus demonstrated his authority as messiah, and his divine credentials, through miraculous signs, his understanding of people's true needs and his ability to show disciples how to do what he did - join in with the Father's work, empowered by the Holy Spirit. With Jesus as leader, his truthful word as law and himself as liaison, God's kingdom could be fully restored. It requires death and rebirth, turning away from our old corrupt lives and being transformed to live eternal lives in Jesus, and God has done the work to make this possible. (See more about life in Jesus in last week's session.)

In a sense, Jesus has already brought this about, but we do not yet see it in full effect. The world is not fully accepting God's kingdom rule, and sin and death still play a part in all of our lives. It was made clear to followers then, as is still the case now, that we are experiencing the kingdom in part. There is an unknown time in the future when Jesus will return, our transformation will be complete, heaven and earth will be renewed, and eternal life uncorrupted by sin will be our experience.

We looked at two ways Christians deal with this tension between the "now" and the "not yet" aspects of God's kingdom. They are important because they affect how we choose to live now, and will shape how we relate to other people who are not yet following Jesus. [These notes expand a bit on what we talked about briefly.]

"Spaceship" theology is Bern's unkind term (there is probably a less loaded word) for an extreme focus on the hope in the future to the exclusion of care about the present world except for whatever is in a church environment - as if the church were, or had access to, a spaceship to escape the earth. This can be accompanied by a focus on spiritual over material works. It is true that holiness and separation from corruption are biblically required, and remembering there will be an end to the world as we know it is important, but the down side can include an isolation from the world we are called to love and transform, and a disregard for aspects of the present environment. In some ways this thinking is more prevalent in the USA than the UK at the moment, but it is noticeable and unhelpful in lots of ways, alienating people from the church and bringing the gospel into disrepute among people who may love God's work but don't love "spaceship" church culture.

"Stewardship" theology, recognising God's ownership of and care for the world we live in now, is (in Bern's opinion) much more faithful to scripture. However, there is danger if we twist it into an extreme focus on material works or a view of the present which neglects the imminent return of Jesus and what this will mean for those who chose to follow and those who chose not to. It is dangerous to get immersed in attempts to solve human problems without recognising the special, holy and radically transformative nature of God's kingdom resources today. Simply looking after or preserving God's stuff is not what we are called to do (see the parable of the talents) - God requires repentance, faith and investment of his resources, and in return he provides spiritual fruit and new life. This is only possible in Jesus. If we resolve to do good works in the present but hold back from others our knowledge of Jesus who makes "good" possible, how good can our work be?

Trying to hold "spaceship" and "stewardship" in tension is (in Bern's opinion) not helpful. "What should I do?" is the wrong lens to see kingdom through, because kingdom is about the king first, and our actions in response to the king second. A better approach is to remember that God has done all the initiating, all of the calling and all of the enabling for us to live fruitful lives. He has given us "sonship", so that his identity would be transferred to us, and we would forever be part of his family. It is God's will for his kingdom to come into full effect. Jesus taught disciples to want this too and express this in prayer: "Our Father... your kingdom come..." In practice, that means we should remember we are God's family, loved and resourced by him to join in his work of transforming the world. What we do must follow who we are in Christ, who calls us branches in him, the vine, as well as salt and light in the world. We are made to be productive and transformative in spiritual and material ways. When we know who we are and follow Jesus whole heartedly, God will take us further than we can imagine possible. This may include serving, in Jesus' name, anywhere in the world, inside or outside of recognisable church.

Finally, we considered a "Lifeshapes" tool, the triangle, which depicts three dimensions of kingdom life - "up" (relationship with the Father), "in" (relationship with other disciples) and "out" (relationship with the rest of the world). We saw "up", "in" and "out" as essential parts of Jesus' life, as they should be for us. If we only have two out of three, we will be living in a distorted shadow of kingdom life, lacking the necessary purpose of mission, support of other believers or resources of heaven. All three are needed if we are to see God's kingdom come and his will done in our lives.

The triangle can therefore be used as a handy evaluation tool, prompting re-thinks and correction where we see distortion and problems. It's a helpful exercise to self-evaluate our lives, but even better to discuss how we are doing "up", "in" and "out" with a friend who can see our blind spots and hold us accountable where we find changes to make.

After a time of prayer for each other, we recommitted to following Jesus on mission together, certain that our lives our rooted in him. "Don't try and do this our own way in our own strength" seemed to be a live, relevant word. God is working through us, and needs us to work his way, to renew the world and re-establish his kingdom.

Growth and fruitful life in Christ

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We are approaching half way through RE:SOURCE and it can feel like a big stretch! The ideas about following Jesus and changing the world are great, but the practice where we are feels harder. Most of the group tonight thought they had not had a chance to put some of the teaching to the test, although people were seeing good fruit from things they had tried.

We reminded ourselves that God's vision for us is not just to be connected to church, but to be fruitful, looked after by God the father, attached to his work through Jesus and empowered by his Holy Spirit which produces good things in us. The clearest picture of this in the Bible is Jesus' picture of the vine in John 15.

Vines, grapes and their juice or wine have special significance for the Jewish people who first heard Jesus' teaching. Good wine is the end product of the careful and skilled cultivation of a vine over many years. Israel identified with the vine as God's holy and valuable handiwork, and wine is used to this day to start and end every sabbath and festival as a reminder of the special and holy nature of God's people.

However, prophets used this picture as a warning as well as an encouragement, because God's intention was to produce better quality fruit than was seen. Isaiah 5 describes the work God put into the vineyard, and what would happen as only bad (or wild) fruit was produced. Jeremiah 2 echoes this and Hosea 10 adds an accusation that Israel misused its fruit by building itself up along with altars and stonework. (Micah 6 gives a good clue about what God wanted instead of this sort of religious practice - we'll consider this more next week.)

Just after the Last Supper on the night before Jesus died, he probably walked with his disciples past the picture of the vine in the temple's intricate stonework, and Jesus re-framed this picture in a shocking way. He identified himself as the "true vine", with his disciples as the branches, expected to be fruitful under his father the gardener's supervision, but this would only be possible if a disciple's life remains in Christ.

We observed that when we look at a bunch of grapes, we say we see grapes (the fruit), not grapes and branches, stems, etc. If we are bearing fruit, this is to glorify our father the gardener and Jesus the vine, not ourselves. We might not even get noticed. But we have one purpose - to be fruitful - vines are planted for no other reason, because the branches are no use for anything else.

We need to understand how a vine becomes fruitful. Its branches enjoy a season of resting with no apparent growth before their season of growth comes. In its first few years of attachment to the vine, a branch probably bears no fruit at all, or very little - it would be unable to support much weight. After every fruit-producing season, a branch then needs to be pruned back so that it is virtually invisible, and it will then grow back stronger, able to bear more fruit next year.

This is quite a counter-cultural picture for us. Our capitalist society sees money flow to where the growth is. This creates opportunities, and we want to see things keep growing forever, but where there is recession instead of growth, there is fear and withdrawal, and it can look like death and failure instead of a necessary season before the next season of growth.

All sorts of natural rhythms (daily need for sleep, weekly need for time off, annual need for holiday) suggest we should be moving regularly between growth and cutting back, but do we idolise growth and fear pruning? If we go with God's rhythm of life, we will need to be disciplined and shaped by him, but we will also become very fruitful over time. If we try and go our own way and resist the gardener's structures and discipline, we will only ever produce small amounts of wild fruit.

Becoming aware of the changing seasons in our work and spiritual lives is useful but can also be stressful - we don't always enjoy change, but there will always be a change of season somewhere ahead. It is possible to try and work this through alone, but much wiser to consider with a friend you can be accountable with, looking out for what is happening with each other and supporting each other through change (see our previous sessions on Growing in trust and Learning from life and changing). Most importantly, we have to remember Jesus' promise in John 15:2 - "If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing."

The rest of John 15 provides practical detail on how we remain in Christ, by obeying his commands, as well as what we can expect when we do - unprecedented supplies of love to share, but also opposition from some people who hate us because they hate Jesus. In Galatians 5, Paul carries on this picture of fruitfulness with specific examples of what God's fruit is, and why we have competing desires to produce less helpful things.

Our practical challenge this week is to share some of this picture with someone who wants to hear it. Many of our friends and colleagues are feeling the stress of non-stop pushing for growth or the fear of cutting back, and this is a brilliant way to share good news that life can be better, and how.

Next week, we will look at God's biggest plan, for his Kingdom, and that will help us make sense of what all of our fruitfulness is for!

Saturday session - God at work

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In our latest Saturday morning session, we looked at the way God made our work and our faith to fit together, and what it means to be "on mission with Jesus" in a workplace.

To begin, we shared what we do for work, and our mixture of motivations why. All of us said that "to earn money and enjoy life" was one of our top motivations to work. Not so many put "to evangelise and share my faith" in their top priorities. But an encouragement from today was that approaching work from God's point of view creates natural opportunities to share faith.

In seeing work from God's point of view, we considered the beginning of Genesis. We all recognised God doing the kinds of work we find interesting in Genesis 1. God calls us to join him in work. Our rebellion against God makes life and work harder, but God still promises provision for us through work.

Elsewhere in scripture, we find encouragement to work well, as though we work for God directly, and we are promised purpose through work which builds our relationship with God and other people. Work is a good place to build relationships filled with "shalom" - wholeness, wellbeing and peace - as we put in a great deal of time and reveal our character through the choices we make about how to work. 

We considered why work does not always seem to be the ideal place scripture suggests it could be. We are living in a fallen and rebellious world and experiencing pain as a result (Genesis 3). We don't always have the best motivations, we act selfishly and forget about God's promises of love and provision for us.

Some of the things we can do to restore God's place in our work lives, and allow God to transform our workplaces, include:

  • praying for our work and colleagues - we should do this with someone else, ideally someone at work, but otherwise with someone else close who can relate to our work
  • investing time in building loving relationships at work - this might include time on top of work time, but it certainly should include our whole approach to how we work with colleagues
  • giving praise wherever it is due - to colleagues and, where appropriate, to God
  • resolving to be great servants - being good at our work and meeting the needs of our colleagues and customers builds trust, and the gospel is only attractive within relationships of trust
  • relying on God more to produce the fruit of his spirit in us - who doesn't need more love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness or self control? The amazing thing about spiritual fruit, when we rely on God to produce it, is that the more we give away, the more we tend to have. And even if work rules ever get in the way of speaking openly about faith, they never get in the way of spiritual fruit, because "against such things there is no law" (Galatians 5:23)

We prayed in groups and God gave many words of encouragement about our work, our purpose and our relationships with colleagues.

We're encouraging everyone to continue praying about their work at least once a week with the nearest possible colleague or Christian who can relate to their work.

Session 6 - People of peace

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Tonight we worshipped using Psalm 27, then considered how we were getting on with the course so far. People highlighted different challenges they are finding in the two things we are trying to do together: grow as disciples, and make disciples.

We then considered two pictures of evangelism. In one, we feel the weight of responsibility God places on us if we consider ourselves God's instruments to change a corrupt and evil world. While there is some biblical truth in this, there is also a huge danger that we misunderstand our role and responsibility in God's kingdom. We must not forget that scripture also teaches that God is love, that God loved each of us before we knew him, and that God works before us in preparing people to meet him and accept Jesus as Lord.

A better picture shows that God already loves me and any of my friends that don't yet know him. The relationship God called me into with him inspires and sustains the loving relationship I have with a friend, who is not the opposite of me because they are not a Christian, but is equally loved by God as I am. God is preparing some of the people I know, and others I meet, to recognise and accept him; they just have to hear the good news about God's kingdom and respond. This usually happens within loving relationship, not through arguments and battles!

We looked at how Jesus sent his disciples out with good news (Luke 10:1-12). They were to expect a harvest ready for them (which they did nothing to prepare), but they were also being sent without earthly resources and protection. They were vulnerable, and could expect both opposition (wolves) and support from particular people where they were going (welcomers). They needed to look for and accept the hospitality of people of peace if they were to succeed in their mission.

"Peace" is an inadequate English word to describe the concept Jesus' followers understood as "shalom". This is not just quietness or an absence of conflict. To offer shalom is to wish for wellbeing, prosperity and wholeness for someone, and a relationship in which shalom is shared is a deep, complete and happy one. It alludes to an ideal, something which transcends our brokenness and restores the wholeness we could find if our relationship with God were fully restored. So offering and receiving "peace" is, if we take this literally, a lot more than saying hello!

If we want relationships where "shalom" is shared, we have to be willing to share our lives, build trust, reveal and discuss our "kairos" moments, and be honest about what our relationship with God is like, and we can only do this with people who accept and return our offer of shalom. It's not sufficient to bounce around evangelising with a set of learned Bible verses and a well considered script. Jesus tells his disciples to find and stay with people of peace. (For clarity: this is not to say that there is no place for proclamation and street evangelism - it is also biblical, God calls people into it, and it may well be part of the preparation God makes for someone before we find they are a person of peace.)

We are going to look more at mission in another Re:source session, but tonight we focused on how to apply this in the places we already spend a lot of time, such as work, family or where we live.

Wrong thinking about evangelism can make us nervous, defensive, guilt-ridden, even aggressive and hard hearted. But discerning, and growing relationship with, a person of peace requires us to be soft hearted and sensitive to what God is doing around us, as well as to what is happening with our friends and colleagues. Some things to consider:

Timing - the harvest Jesus talked about is seasonal. There is time before someone is ready to be a person of peace, and there is time when they are fully ready, just needing to be asked. Changes in life often coincide with a change of season for us. (We will look more at this in a future Re:source session.) In places where we have long term relationships, we need to remember that someone who is not a person of peace right now may become one in future.

Transparency - we can only have real shalom peace in a relationship if we share our lives, and so we must not keep hidden agendas. People of peace are not projects we are secretly working on. It is good to share our hopes for a relationship while respecting that someone may not share our beliefs - we love them regardless! It is also good to share honestly, with someone who wants to know, about the things we find difficult in our walk with Jesus, such as things we are struggling to understand or apply properly. We will spend a long time waiting to share the gospel if we are waiting to be perfect before we start! God can be recognised when we share honestly and openly within a loving relationship.

Temperature - with sensitivity, we sometimes need to raise the spiritual temperature of a conversation or relationship to see how true shalom is present and working. This is a classic way to find people of peace. For example, many people will return a warm general greeting, but people of peace respond positively, at least with interest, to spiritual greetings and invitations. How does someone react when you suggest that God is real and his kingdom is near? What happens when you offer to pray for them? People of peace show an interest, even if they don't fully understand or agree with you.

Together - Jesus did not send disciples to find people of peace alone, but in pairs. We need another Christian's help to discern what is going on when we are looking for people of peace. A friend we can be accountable with is ideal to discuss and pray about this, help us process our "kairos" moments and offer encouragement as we seek people of peace. We are also caled to encourage others. In a work context, I recommend finding the nearest Christian who is willing to pray with you, and spending time with them seeking God's blessing for your colleagues. (More on this in our "God at work" session on Saturday.)

Trouble - if we are near people of peace, Jesus says that we will also be near opposition, "like lambs among wolves." It's not our job to battle and convert the wolves. Nor does Jesus call us to find safety among large numbers of other lambs (i.e. stick in the comfort of a Christian community). Rather we are to seek the hospitality and shelter of people of peace. We noted that we can recognise a person of peace at work as someone who might defend us against opposition when we share about our faith, even if they don't share our beliefs.

Trust - we need to trust God as we step out in vulnerability to find people of peace. If we feel fully reliant on our own resources, this will actually be harder to do - it can dull our sensitivity, or make people who are attracted to us or our stuff (rather than God's kingdom) look like people of peace. Jesus sent people out with no resources except God's power, so it could be shown to people that they could trust God. As well as trusting God, we need to trust the people he is working in. A relationship which is defined by shalom peace is certainly one we will need to invest trust in, so we should be prepared for and committed to finding people of peace we can deepen our level of trust with. (See the first Re:source session for more on this.) People of peace tend to respond in kind, and it can be amazing how a person of peace brings others who know and trust them along for the journey. Finding one person of peace can be the way to bring a whole family, workplace or community to Christ!

After considering the benefits of finding people of peace, we then needed to commit to do it, and to pray through our fears and hopes about it. We prayed for friends we think are, or could be, people of peace and were challenged to find a person of peace or deepen a relationship with one this week. As part of getting better at making disciples, we were also challenged to share the idea of people of peace, or shalom, with someone else.

 

Session 5 - Introduction to the Spiritual Disciplines

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This week we looked at an introduction to spiritual disciplines here are the things we discussed and considered:

There are many things we are disciplined at doing habitually and intentionally. All of these practices influence our lives for better or worse, these practices affect us not just physically and mentally, but they affect our relationship with God too. If we want to engage with all that God has for us, if we want to go deeper with him, to serve him, to live the life Jesus lived, a free and blessed life then we must practice what Jesus taught. There are certain practices we have been taught to do, and can be disciplined in, such as worship accountability and making disciples, when we practice what Jesus taught we are stepping into a life of discipleship, doing what Jesus has asked of us. Intentional, disciplined practice acted out faithfully before the father. The classical spiritual disciplines such as worship, prayer, reading scripture, meditation, service and solitude are a few spiritual disciplines that are tools we have been given to enage in a deeper realtionship with God. 

When we practise spiritual disciplines with the right heart....to connect more fully with God it produces the opposite of self-centeredness – God centeredness.

It’s all about surrender when we meet with God, when we pursue him we say ‘my life is yours’, ‘it’s you Lord I seek’. What happens when we engage with God? He Reaffirms who we are in him, renews our vision and empowers us to live it out. ‘For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.’  Philippians 2:13 – When we meet with God, he works in us and through us.

Paul and Silas knew who they were, what task God had given them to do, they called out to the father in worship and they saw the Holy Spirit act in an incredible way. – Acts 16: 16-34. Spiritual disciplines are all about intentional, disciplined practice.

Taking stock means to review and reflect upon your week, your month, your year and to ask ‘How have I engaged with God this week?’ ‘How am I doing?’ ‘Am I growing?’ and ‘How have I shared Jesus this week?’ By asking ourselves these simple questions we can look to pursue greater freedom in Christ by pursuing more of him. Why don’t you spend an hour a week asking yourself these questions and reflecting on the week ahead?

Session 4 - Learning from life and changing

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After a worship time which felt like it was guided by the Holy Spirit with words and songs of praise for God, we discussed how we were doing so far on the course. In particular, Jesus' description of the character of disciples seemed challenging and a struggle to live up to - too much for us to do on our own.

The main teaching topic was "kairos moments", which are significant, life-defining times. We already know what these are. As well as living them, we see them clearly in stories. "War Horse", for example, has a major kairos near the beginning as a father spends more than his family can afford on a horse. His family's lives have to change as a result, and the rest of the story unfolds from there. As his son tries to train the horse for work, he describes the sum of his knowledge about life - "there are big days and little days." 

In a similar way, the ancient Greeks had two words for time. "Chronos" describes the regular passage of time, like the ticking of a watch (we get the word "chronometer" from this Greek word.) Each chronos moment is like a little day which might never be remembered. But "kairos" describes a time, like a big day, which has a lasting effect on us. A kairos moment takes up a disproportionate amount of space in our heads compared with all the surrounding chronos moments.

We found that it was quite easy to list kairos moments from the Bible, such as Abraham and Isaac's trip up the mountain and the intervention of God just before sacrifice, or Jesus' call for each disciple. We also considered kairos moments from films and stories which our friends might recognise more quickly than Bible stories.

We then discussed personal examples of kairos moments, including large ones which have affected our lives for years, and more recent ones which have occurred in the last few days, perhaps with smaller effect but still significant to us right now.

After a kairos, we have choices about how to respond. One option is to ignore it and do nothing differently. This can lead to us trying to insulate ourselves from further shocks and surprises. Such insulation may be a determination to become more inward-focused, or it may be a layer of cynicism around our hearts to protect them from the world. If we consistently refuse to learn from kairos moments, this cynicism or hard-heartedness can make it difficult to learn anything at all.

Jesus announced a kairos at the beginning of his ministy - a turning point in the story of God's kingdom on earth. In Mark 1:15, he also told people what to do as a result of this kairos - "repent and believe the good news."

We looked a process called the "learning circle" (original source: Mike Breen's Lifeshapes teaching, developed at St Thomas Church, Sheffield). This is designed as a process anyone can follow to put repentance and belief into practice. By "repent" we literally mean "re-think" or take a fresh look at what is going on, not necessarily being sorry - kairoses can be good as well as bad. Three practical steps of repentance: 

- observe - what really happened in this kairos, and what else is going on?

- reflect - what does it mean? What am I learning about myself from my reaction?

- discuss - don't remain self-centred, get another view and share observations, reflections and ideas

This process isn't meant to drive us to find all the answers to life's questions within ourselves. Rather we believe there is a bigger truth, and we can find this in God's word. Honest repentance should lead us to seek what God wants to say to us, and processing a kairos can lead to a life changing encounter with God.

Repentance on its own is not the life Jesus calls us to. Belief is necessary to move on, and the learning circle process breaks this into three practical steps too:

- plan - make a decision from the options about what you can do after your rethink

- account - share this plan with someone else - this will make it more likely you will act on it instead of just having a good idea

- act - take the leap of faith and do the thing you thought you should do

Life may then carry on in a new direction, although it won't be long until there are more kairoses to process. We agreed that Jesus' call to repent and believe was not just a one-time entrance to God's kingdom, but a lifetime of discipleship, learning and the practice of a new faith-filled life.

Three things I have picked up about relationships from the practice of processing kairos moments in this way:

- getting into a habit of using the learning circle makes me more self-aware, more sensitive to kairos moments and more able to learn from God through them. I could get over-sensitive, even obsessive, if I tried to process them all on my own, but doing it with someone else keeps things in perspective, and keeps me grounded in reality.

- processing kairoses with a friend builds a relationship in a remarkable way. It is a big deposit of trust, and it is one of the most helpful ways I have found to build a friendship.

- each processed kairos can be the beginning of a story which can be shared with lots of people, and may become a life changing kairos for them.

The challenges for this week involve taking time to process kairoses with someone else, and to share the idea with someone who doesn't yet know about it, and perhaps does not yet believe in God.

Session 3 - The Beatitudes

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In the third session of re:source we looked at the Beatitudes; well-known and talked about scripture, that give a picture of the attitudes we adopt as we grow as disciples. They are the qualities Jesus looked for in his followers, it gives a clear picture of how we are called to be.
It really is an incredible call, to not only live, as Christ lived, but to develop the way of being, the norm of a disciple of Christ. Jesus is establishing his kingdom on earth; he is ushering in a new way, he is saying if you live like this, if you recognise this, if you seek after this, you will not only be blessed and find true happiness but you will seek Christ’s approval and not mans. (And inherit the kingdom ‘yours is the kingdom of heaven’.)

We discussed the fact that as disciples we recognise that we are sinful and rebellious and in desperate need of God, if we are to accomplish anything for him, and we are happy because ‘theirs is the kingdom of heaven’.  We also mourn not just for our own brokenness but for a broken world, and are blessed because ‘they shall be comforted’.

We are co-heirs in the kingdom and have received a spirit of son ship, we know that we can live and act now and see God move in incredible ways in our daily lives, because ours is the kingdom of heaven to engage in now, and live in for eternity.

This spurs us on to tell others as there is a reality to engage with, life or death for the whole world. We act in meekness and mercy towards others seeking to serve and show mercy, in that we might receive mercy, and show Christ’s mercy to others. We act as peacemakers sharing a gospel with others that reconciles the world to God. We live hungry and thirsty for righteousness seeking to live a life of holiness before the father, approaching him with pure motives so that we might see him at work and live for his glory in obedience to him. If we live this life we will face persecution, because it will be on display for others to criticise, but look at the reward the kingdom of heaven is ours and we shall be comforted by an all-powerful and loving God. 

Session 1 part 2 - Growing in trust

The second part of our first week at RE:SOURCE was about trust, how important it is, and how we can grow trust and relationships.

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We believe that the well known principle that "trust has to be earned" is not God's principle. By his grace he gives us lots of things we never earned, and the creation story opens with God entrusting people with sharing his work. There were consequences for our choice to break out of the relationship God intended for us, but the bible keeps repeating something we desperately need to know - we can trust God, and we must.

Jesus chose not to entrust himself to everyone else but did grow relationships with disciples, and he entrusted them with the work of bringing God's kingdom back across the world. This work, led by the Holy Spirit, reminds us of the relationships God originally wanted us to have, and are now possible again through Jesus.

So it is vital that we get better at growing relationships, and trust is central. We looked at Stephen R. Covey's idea of a "trust account" to describe the way levels of trust between people can be added to by deposits of trust-building behaviour, and can also diminish when withdrawals are made by behaviour which undermines trust. We made our own lists of trust deposit and withdrawal behaviours, and took away Stephen M.R. Covey's summary to evaluate ourselves later.

Finally we considered that when we evaluate our own character and behaviour, we have blind spots which can only ever be addressed in a trusting relationship. A great way to do this is to make an accountability partnership with someone, discuss what we are processing in life, what we need to pray about - including sin we need to confess - and any commitments we want help in sticking with. The notes include some classic accountability questions from Methodist founder John Wesley.

Session 1 part 1 - Getting to know each other

In our first RE:SOURCE session, we got into groups and played a game to help get to know each other. In groups, someone picks a card and reads out their choice of four questions, each of which requires a different level of trust and intimacy for others in the group to want to share an answer. If anyone does not want to answer that question, they raise a hand, and another question from the card must be chosen instead. We set a time limit of 15 minutes for the groups to get to know as much about each other as possible.

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Question cards (formatted to print to WHSmith business cards)

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This was an experiment to see how levels of trust might grow in a short time (they seemed to - people grew to ask and answer more intimate questions), how this is affected by the size of group (smaller groups find it easier to go for the high trust options) and what happens when newcomers join the group (this can keep a group on lower intimacy questions for longer).

The game can be a useful structure for groups, not just to get to know each other better, but to reflect on the process and why we set ourselves limits in the questions we ask each other.

Some seemed to feel frustrated that others would not share as much as they wished to share, and others recognised this situation from real life - it is much easier to keep lots of superficial relationships going, and hard to build real trust and intimacy with a large number of people.

We also considered that newcomers can often feel that church is "cliquey" and hard to break into. New people don't know what is going on, and people who have been around a bit longer may feel uncomfortable as they regulate themselves and what they talk about in the presence of newcomers. This was a situation we managed to replicate in just a few minutes of game time! It is a constant challenge and opportunity for us to welcome and include new people, and we need to think about how we can do this better.